“It takes a village”, they said.
I can remember when the twins were born, that first day in the hospital, how we disrupted the maternity wing with so many visitors. Our phenomenal nurses kept trying to limit the amount of visitors, despite my dismissal of their concerns, when finally I had to say “they are our village. We just had twins, we will need them. Let them enjoy this moment too.”
Our village, both the extended, and the intimate, has shown up in ways for our family that I don’t know many of them realized they signed up for, even more so since the twins’ diagnosis. Having three small children, two with particular needs, we threw our pride out the window two years ago, and learned how to ask for help when we needed it, sometimes too often. When we’ve had to lean on the shoulders of our village, we’ve had to lean in hard, sometimes placing an unwanted burden.
Our immediate family, particularly my in-laws and my sister, have shown up with such repetition and selflessness, it’s almost become an expected appearance, and one we have to remind ourselves to vocalize gratitude for, because their efforts are offered and by no means required. Granny & Pop-Pop, the Saturday date nights, and continued drop-ins when we need a moment to breath, are sometimes the only way we can recharge enough to be present for our family. Auntie Sammy, your energy and love you shower on our children is not only reciprocated, but clear in their adoration for you as their favorite person. We are eternally grateful for the three of you, and the rest of our family members - THANK YOU for always being our life-line.
Our chosen family, the friends who continue to show up time and time again, that are weaved into the framework of our lives in such a strategic and permanent way, shower us with love and support in ways that I hope we can live up to deserving one day. They sacrifice their time, energy, and more often then not, physical labor, to help us during our times of need - and this is just one moment of public praise and gratitude I thought appropriate to take - THANK YOU! (You know who you are.)
Yesterday, when I asked for help from our extended community, you showed up in ways that I didn’t know possible. Friends from grade school to college, neighbors and community members, and new friends that I’ve never met in person, but continue to follow our journey through this platform, went out of their way to try to help us in our time of need. The support that came after the request was simply heartwarming, and one of the most beautiful moments of this journey for us. THANK YOU all. Not only for following our journey, for sharing this blog with others when you’ve found something helpful, and for messaging, calling, texting ideas that you think may help our family. We will continue to welcome any and all suggestions with open and grateful hearts.
I just needed to take a moment, to say “Welcome to our Village.” We are so glad you are here, and fortunate to be part of yours. Call on us when you need us, and we’ll continue to show up as you have for us.
Sincerely, Christina. XO